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Newsletter Volume 2 - October 8, 2001
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In the aftermath of the events of Sept 11th, we at Words Can Heal.Org are committed more than ever to unite and strengthen America through the power of words.
All of us have been deeply touched by this tragic event. We saw the true colors of the American people from within this tragedy. We rose to new levels of concern, care and fellowship.
Now comes the true test. Lets not go back to normal. Lets do better.
All the best,
Irwin Katsof & Chaim Feld
WordsCanHeal.org Co-Founders
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Quote of the Week
"The best thing to do behind a person's back is to pat it."
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You're stuck on a desert island . . . .
Pick the last words you would have wanted to say to your child before you got stranded:
"You little good for nothing! You'll never amount to anything!"
"Stop chewing like that, you look like a pig!"
"Get out of my way, I can't see the television!"
"You're a lazy slob!"
"It's right there, can't you see it right in front of your face!"
"We're late and it's all your fault!"
"Just shut up!"
"If you do that again I'm going to have to hit you!"
"Stop whining and get off the couch!"
"You are so thick-headed!"
"Get out of this room, now!"
or
"I'm in a grouchy mood, can we talk another time?"
"I don't want to lose my temper, so please do as I ask."
"You are behaving very nicely, I'm proud of you."
"I like being with you."
"I love you."
~ When you're about to say something harsh, stop yourself mid-sentence. Imagine yourself about to head off to a desert island, do you want those words to be your last? ~
See More About Positive Parenting
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Tip of the Week: At Work
Say unto others as you would want said unto you. . .
As you are about to rebuke your employee, think about how you would feel if your superior said those same words to you. Would harsh criticism motivate you to do your best? Or would words of encouragement followed by some specific suggestions be better?
Plan your words carefully - you have the power to make your employees miserable and unproductive, or you can use words that inspire them to perform at their best.
More Tips for At Work
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Tip of the Week: At Home
After a long day, we often let our temper get the best of us and say things we don't mean. Afterward, instead of apologizing, we justify our behavior by trying to prove to ourselves how much the other person deserved our wrath.
Next time, as soon as you recognize that you spoke harshly, commit to doing better next time. If you can apologize, so much the better.
More Tips for At Home
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Talking with Children About Terrorism
Some people have asked us for concrete tips how to help their children deal with the tragedy of September 11. Here is one tip we found that we would like to share with you.
1. It’s not always WHAT you say, it’s HOW you say it.
Modulate your response with children. If you are feeling intense emotions about Tuesday’s tragedy, then now is NOT the time to talk with your children. Take care of yourself first. Talk over your feelings with a spouse, friend or therapist. If you are overcome with emotion, your child will pick up on that, and she will only become more frightened. Once you feel like you are more in control of your emotions, then you can talk about feelings with your child. It is fine to share some of your feelings. For example, you can let your child know that you feel sad for the children and families who have been touched by Tuesday’s tragedy. When you do share your feelings with your child, it is also important that you share simple strategies that you use to deal with your feelings. Using the example above, you might say something to your child like: "When I feel sad like that, it helps me to think about how my family and friends are safe, and it’s my job to help keep you safe."
This is one of the ten tips written by Timothy H. Warneka, M.Ed., LPCC of www.clevelandtherapists.com.
To read all ten tips click here.
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We're getting the word out - together.
The best way to make sure that you keep the pledge is to get your friends and family involved too.
If you'd like to tell your friends and family about the project, just go to the website http://www.wordscanheal.org/tellafriend.htm to send them an email!
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